Reader’s Question:
Regarding the case of Nakai Masahiro, I’ve seen the actions of the victim being criticized online, which makes me feel uncomfortable. It seems that going to work the day after the incident, eating cake, saying on the radio that she has a new boyfriend, and posting smiling photos have led to doubts about whether sexual violence actually occurred. But
is it necessary for someone who has been victimized to be in tears all the time? I think it’s strange to assume that showing a smile means they are lying. Even after experiencing sexual violence, some people may need to continue working, and many may act normally to avoid drawing attention. The assumption that “if they seem fine, it’s a lie” itself can be considered a form of secondary victimization. What do you all think about the trend of seeking an idealized response from victims?
Prejudice Against Victims’ Actions
Recently, I’ve been reflecting on the case of Nakai Masahiro and the criticism of the victim’s actions online. It’s been said that her going to work the day after the incident, eating cake, and even mentioning on the radio that she has a new boyfriend have raised doubts about the occurrence of sexual violence. Honestly, I find this discomforting.
Diversity of Emotions
I don’t think it’s necessary for someone who has been victimized to be in tears all the time. Human emotions are incredibly complex, and it’s possible to show a smile even amid sadness and pain. For example, I often feel stomach pain from anxiety as university exams approach, yet I sometimes laugh when I’m with friends. Those moments can help me forget a bit of the inner turmoil. I believe the same applies to victims; they may act normally to avoid being noticed or may need to continue working.
The Issue of Secondary Victimization
The notion that “if they seem fine, it’s a lie” is a critical observation of secondary victimization. Just because a victim is smiling doesn’t mean their experience should be taken lightly. The way people are criticized online gives the impression that there is an expectation for victims to display a “correct reaction.” If they don’t fit the idealized image of a victim, they are quickly attacked. This perspective is utterly flawed. To be clear, I feel a strong anger towards this trend. How would I feel if I were a victim and subjected to such scrutiny from those around me? It is incredibly cruel to suggest that even showing a smile for self-protection is unacceptable.
Conclusion
This issue has made me reflect on how unconsciously we hold prejudices. Seeking an idealized response from victims is truly dangerous. It’s important to understand and respect that each person’s reaction can differ. What do you think, readers? I encourage you to share your opinions and experiences in the comments. Even the smallest thoughts can resonate deeply with everyone.
