Questions from Readers:
Recently, a certain celebrity claimed they would “not be involved in the television world,” yet they have been appearing on terrestrial TV and YouTube, sparking discussions. This has led to criticisms stating, “What they say and what they do are different” and “They are lying.” But is this really a contradiction? On her Instagram, she mentioned that
“the stress from current defamation and death threats is greater than the trauma itself.” So why must she continuously hear “You’re lying”? She has explained that “PTSD does not completely heal” and expressed her desire “not to narrow the scope of her life and work.” Yet, to assume that “returning = getting better = PTSD is a lie” is a rather simplistic judgment. Isn’t it akin to telling someone trying to recover from trauma, “Don’t you dare try to recover!” when you blame them for differing from their previous statements? Human feelings and thoughts can change based on daily conditions and environments. The trend in online communities to document every statement and call out inconsistencies feels not only harsh but also quite abnormal. What is most alarming is that these “consistency police” use words as their shield to corner those who are currently suffering. In a society that can say to someone with PTSD, who scratches their body and screams “I’m going to be killed” in their sleep, “But you appeared on terrestrial TV, right?” which side is truly broken? Why do we demand “consistency” or “logic” in the recovery process?
On the Contradiction Between Words and Actions
Lately, there has been talk about a celebrity’s statement that they would “not be involved in the television world” while they have, in fact, appeared on terrestrial TV and YouTube. Critics have pointed out that “what they say and what they do are different,” but is this truly a contradiction? As someone who has studied law, I often feel the “weight of words.” In the legal world, how we use language can form a contract or agreement. Thus, I believe the words of celebrities carry significance. However, the issues of trauma and PTSD that she faces possess complexities that cannot be resolved merely by comparing “words” and “actions.”
The Recovery Process is Individual
Blaming someone trying to recover from trauma for differing from their previous statements is undeniably cruel. The recovery process is unique to each individual and is significantly influenced by daily conditions and environments. For instance, when I work at my judicial scrivener office, busy periods can lead to stress, while calmer times bring peace of mind. It’s natural for one’s emotional state to fluctuate in such daily routines. In this sense, demanding “consistency” or “logic” during the recovery process may actually reflect a lack of understanding of that person’s suffering. When she says she “doesn’t want to narrow the scope of her life and work,” it may well be her way of taking a step forward.
Words Alone Cannot Save
Moreover, the trends on social media and the internet are concerning. It makes one reflect on how pointless it is to deny her suffering based solely on the fact that she “appeared on terrestrial TV.” Judging someone only by words can be dangerously misleading. There have been times when I told friends “I’m fine today,” yet inside, I was filled with anxiety. In those moments, I realize I am fighting deep battles that others cannot see. Reflecting on my experiences, I find that small moments can be incredibly uplifting. The sweetness of snacks shared with friends or moments of laughter together is precious. Such small joys contribute significantly to recovery.
Conclusion
Ultimately, blaming the contradictions and changes in the recovery process from trauma not only hinders recovery but also undermines a person’s dignity. I believe it is crucial for us to first accept the pain of others to truly understand them. If any readers are feeling something within or have anecdotes about the recovery process, I would love to hear from you. Please feel free to share even the smallest thoughts in the comments.
