Question from a reader:
I recently heard that a friend of mine was a victim of sexual assault. The perpetrator was a high school teacher, and my friend was invited to dinner after graduation. Since my friend decided to go to the police, I also spoke during the questioning. During that time, I was told that my name might be known
to the perpetrator, and I became anxious hearing that I could be targeted for revenge. Since the perpetrator was a club advisor, I was informed that they also know our address. In such a situation, is the possibility of revenge truly high? I am extremely worried.

Sexual Assault and Revenge: What to Consider to Protect a Friend

Hello everyone. Today, I want to talk about a rather heavy topic. Hearing the news that a friend was a victim of sexual assault pains my heart. Especially when the perpetrator is someone close, the impact is immeasurable. This time, I would like to consider legal perspectives and coping strategies through my friend’s case.

The Reality of Sexual Assault: A Friend’s Experience

My friend was invited to dinner by a high school teacher and subsequently became a victim of sexual assault. Such incidents can happen to many people and are certainly not someone else’s problem. It was a very important first step for her to muster the courage to consult the police. When victims speak up, it makes society more sensitive to this issue and opens the path to pursue the perpetrator. However, we face another issue. That is “revenge.” The anxiety that the perpetrator may know my name and seek revenge is one that many victims and their associates genuinely fear.

How High is the Risk of Revenge?

When considering the risk of revenge, it is essential to understand the psychology of the perpetrator. Sexual offenders sometimes try to justify their actions or harbor resentment towards the victim. Particularly when the perpetrator is someone close or in a position of power, the impact becomes even greater. From a legal standpoint, if there is revenge or retaliatory behavior, the victim can consult the police immediately. Japanese law has provisions such as the Stalker Regulation Law and the Act on Punishment of Acts of Violence, providing means to protect oneself and those around them. However, honestly, there are doubts about how effective these measures are in practice.

What Can Be Done to Avoid Revenge?

So, how can we reduce the risk of revenge? Based on my experiences and knowledge, I have thought of several measures.

1. Consult the Police

First and foremost, it is crucial to consult the police thoroughly. Inform them that there is a possibility your name may be known to the perpetrator and request necessary protective measures. If the police respond appropriately, the likelihood of ensuring your safety increases.

2. Ensure Physical Safety

Additionally, it is important to be aware of your surroundings at home and work and to take actions to avoid danger. Special caution is needed when moving at night. If possible, having friends or family accompany you can provide an added sense of security.

3. Utilize Mental Health Support

Furthermore, being in such situations often affects mental health. Seeking counseling or talking to someone you trust can also be effective. By organizing your emotions, you can make calm judgments.

My Experience: The Importance of Having Courage

I have personally experienced a situation where a friend was involved in trouble in the past. At that time, I judged that consulting the police immediately was the best course of action. Ultimately, my friend was safe, but the emotional scars were deep, and it took time for complete recovery. During this time, what I felt strongly was the “importance of speaking up.” When victims remain silent, it creates an environment where perpetrators can thrive. Even if there is a risk of revenge, I believe that taking action to pursue justice is incredibly valuable.

In Conclusion: Protecting Yourself

In the end, the risk of revenge will never be zero. Nevertheless, to protect yourself and your friends, taking action is essential. By receiving legal support and gaining the backing of those around you, you should be able to live your daily life with a bit more peace of mind. Such topics are not easy to discuss. However, I hope that by gaining the right knowledge and support from those around you, you can live with a little more assurance. I also want to support you wholeheartedly as your friend. If you need anything, please feel free to consult me. Together, let’s overcome this difficulty.