Question from a reader:
I am really scared and need help. I have asked a question before, and this is a follow-up consultation. Right now, I am very anxious about the possibility of the police finding out, and I think every day about what I would do if the police came to my house. I regret what I did and intend
never to do the same thing again. However, I am truly afraid of the police finding out. I am a middle school student, and I am worried about my parents, family, especially my younger sisters, and my school teachers finding out. The thought that if they find out, I might be abandoned or taken to an unknown place terrifies me. My parents are strict about smartphones, and I might have acted out like this as a reaction to that. I believe my parents trust me, and I don’t want to make them sad. Also, I once sent an image to someone I met in an open chat on LINE, and I am worried about what would happen if the police found out about that. I was forbidden by my parents to join open chats, and I no longer do so. I understand that this is all my own doing, but I really don’t want the police to find out about this matter. What is the likelihood of the police coming to my house? Also, if they do come, what do you think will happen? Every night, I think about what I would do if the police came, and I end up crying. I know it’s my fault, but I am struggling because I can’t consult anyone. Please help me.

Considering the Anxiety and Fear of Police Among Middle School Students

Hello, readers. Today’s theme is about anxiety and fear that particularly young people may face. I would like to share my thoughts in response to a question from a middle school reader. I hope to alleviate your current anxiety and the emotions behind it, even just a little.

Anxiety is Something Everyone Experiences

First of all, I want to convey that your anxiety is not something special. When I was in middle school, I also experienced a lot of anxiety about various things. I constantly worried about not wanting to cause my parents concern and thought about how my actions might affect those around me. The fear you have of “the police coming” is likely to be a significant source of stress. However, let’s first take a moment to calm down and organize the situation.

What is the Likelihood of the Police Coming?

The likelihood of the police coming to your house actually depends on many factors. The police typically act if there is a legal issue or if someone reports something. Consider whether what you are worried about—”what you did”—actually requires police intervention. For instance, simply causing trouble or doing something in secret from your parents does not immediately trigger police action. Of course, if you have engaged in illegal activities, that is a different matter, but even then, it is important to calmly assess what you did and how dangerous it really is.

Don’t Blame Yourself

I understand your feelings of thinking that your past actions are “your own fault.” However, try to avoid blaming yourself too much. Humans are beings that grow, and it is important to learn from failures. I also had similar experiences when I was younger. There were many times when I lost sight of what I wanted to do while trying to meet the expectations of those around me and the trust of my parents. What’s important is not to dwell on the past but to think about what you will do moving forward. It is a wonderful first step that you are reflecting and have decided not to repeat the same mistakes.

Look for Someone to Talk To

Don’t try to handle this alone. Talking to a trusted family member or friend can lighten your feelings a bit. Parents, in particular, want to understand what you are thinking and what troubles you. Of course, it can be difficult to talk to your parents, but consulting a school teacher or counselor is also a good option. I once consulted a trusted teacher. I was nervous at first, but once I started talking, I felt so much better. Adults often understand your feelings more than you think.

How to Respond if the Police Come

If the police come to your house, it is important to remain calm. Even if there is a problem, you have rights. You can express your opinions to the police politely. For example, it is important to show a stance such as, “I regret this matter” or “I will never do the same thing again.” Also, consider having a parent or a trusted adult present if necessary. You don’t have to bear this alone.

Deepen Your Understanding of the Law

Having knowledge about the law can help alleviate your anxiety. Especially for minors, the law exists to protect you. For instance, when a minor faces legal issues, it is common for parents or guardians to bear that responsibility. Having this kind of knowledge can give you the confidence to respond calmly in case of emergencies. Learning about the law is an important step toward improving your own future.

Look Towards the Future

Ultimately, the future is in your hands. Beyond overcoming your current situation lies the future you desire. Have the courage to take a new step without being weighed down by past failures. I was once filled with anxiety, but now I feel that those experiences helped me grow. You too will surely find further growth waiting for you after overcoming this experience. Finally, remember that you are not alone. There are people around you who want to support you. Consult someone you trust and take small steps forward. I sincerely wish for your future to be a bright one.