Question from a reader:
I am 19 years old and recently had a relationship with a woman I met on a dating app. I knew she was married, but she said she was planning to get a divorce. However, after we became intimate, she said she wants to live together and that she would accuse me of infidelity or rape if
we broke up. In this case, what would happen to me if she reported something to the police, the university, or her husband after we break up?

Risks of Dating Apps: Accusations of Infidelity and Their Consequences

Recently, I heard an interesting story from a friend. He is 19 years old and had a relationship with a woman he met through a dating app, but she stated that she was married and planning to get a divorce. The problem arose when, after becoming intimate, she demanded that he live with her and mentioned the possibility of accusing him of infidelity or rape after they broke up. Here, we will explore the legal perspectives and psychological aspects of this issue.

The Beginning of the Relationship and Its Risks

First, meeting through a dating app has become a very common way to connect. However, knowing that the other person is married means he was taking on risks from that point. Legally, infidelity refers to “sexual relations with someone who has a spouse,” which can be considered a tort. This means that by having a relationship with her, he could potentially bear some legal responsibility towards her husband. From a psychological standpoint, it’s interesting to consider why he was attracted to this woman. The allure of being drawn to a married person may stem from the excitement of breaking taboos in human psychology. Such relationships can be thrilling in the short term, but they carry a significant risk of trouble in the long term.

The Demand for Cohabitation and Its Impact

Her request for cohabitation raises further complex issues. If he were to live with her, it could increase his legal responsibilities towards her husband. The reasons she might be asking him to “live together” could include economic factors or emotional dependency, among various other elements. However, for him, such a demand could trigger feelings of guilt. The psychological factors here depend on how committed he is to this relationship. If he is seriously considering a future with her, he might end up taking the risk of cohabitation. However, her insinuations about infidelity or rape could instill fear in him, leading to a loss of trust in the relationship.

Legal Risks and Countermeasures

Now, if she were to say something to the police, the university, or her husband after they broke up, what legal risks would he face? First, if infidelity were to come to light, he could potentially be sued by her husband. This would be a civil lawsuit, and he could be asked to pay damages. Particularly, even if she claimed she was “planning to get a divorce,” legally, her marriage still exists, which means he is likely to be held responsible for infidelity. Additionally, if she uses the term “rape,” this becomes a very serious issue. If she were to claim that she had relations with him without consent, he would have to prove his innocence, which would place a significant mental burden on him. Especially for him as a university student, the implications for his studies and future must also be considered.

Psychological Impact and Self-Defense

In such a situation, how should he defend himself? First and foremost, it is essential to thoroughly check the background and marital status of a partner before becoming intimate. If problems arise, it is crucial to consult a legal expert immediately. He is a university student and may have limited resources, but the advice of a professional is invaluable. Moreover, psychological self-defense is also necessary. To alleviate the stress and anxiety that arise from being in a relationship, it is important to maintain communication with friends and family. By talking to someone trustworthy about his situation, he can lighten his mental burden, even if just a little.

Conclusion

This case highlights the risks associated with meeting through dating apps and the legal issues that accompany them. Relationships with married individuals go beyond simple romance and involve legal responsibilities. As he continues his relationship with this woman, it is essential for him to fully understand the risks and to take measures for psychological and legal self-defense. Finally, while love should be enjoyable, it is important to remember that it can sometimes come with risks.