Reader’s Question:
I’m a middle school student feeling exhausted from my relationships because I can’t find anyone my age who shares my interests. I love anime like “Shadows House,” “Attack on Titan,” “Migi and Dali,” “Kanata no Astra,” “Touhou,” and “Neon Genesis Evangelion,” but I can’t find anyone in my class
or grade who likes the same things. There are people around who call themselves “otaku,” but most of them are into “Demon Slayer” or “Haikyuu!!” (especially the fangirls), which are different from what I enjoy. It feels difficult to openly identify as an otaku at school, so I’ve been researching K-pop topics to join conversations and avoid isolation, but honestly, it’s tough. I’ve attended events like Comiket and other niche gatherings multiple times to make friends, but there are mostly adult men there, and if there are minors, they are usually accompanied by their parents. (But it was still super fun!) I really want to watch anime with friends who share my interests and find true friends, but I hesitate to call myself an otaku while feeling disgusted by people who only watch “Demon Slayer” claiming the same label. I’m tired of my social interactions and don’t know what to do. My grammar might be off, and I’m not even sure what I’m asking anymore, but what do you all think about this issue of self-identifying as an otaku? Also, it’s becoming hard for me to keep saying I like K-pop—what should I do?
Finding Your Tribe: Embracing Your Inner Otaku
Have you ever felt like you’re on a different wavelength than those around you? I remember back in my university days, I had a friend who was utterly obsessed with obscure indie films while most of our classmates were raving about the latest blockbuster hits. We’d spend hours discussing the nuances of a film that no one else seemed to care about, and it was magical. But I can imagine how isolating it must feel for a middle school student, like you, who is trying to navigate a world where interests can feel so misaligned. Your passion for anime like “Shadows House” and “Neon Genesis Evangelion” is something to be celebrated, not hidden away. The struggle of finding like-minded individuals in a sea of “Demon Slayer” fandom can be disheartening. I remember attending a comic convention once, thinking it would be the perfect place to meet fellow enthusiasts. I arrived super early, practically bouncing with excitement, only to find that most of the attendees were much older than I expected. I indulged in far too many snacks while awkwardly mingling, but I met a few kindred spirits that day, and it made all the difference. The notion of self-identifying as an “otaku” can be complex, especially when societal labels start to feel restrictive. It’s true that the term “otaku” has evolved over time, and sometimes it can feel like a badge of honor that comes with its own set of expectations. But here’s the thing: if you resonate with the term, you have every right to claim it. Just like my friend who proudly wore her indie film enthusiast label, you should embrace what makes you unique. No one can dictate what your passions mean to you. As for your efforts to bridge the gap by researching K-pop, that’s commendable—however, it’s essential to stay true to yourself. If K-pop doesn’t resonate with you, then it’s okay to let that be. Authenticity is key in building genuine connections. Perhaps you could find an online community that shares your anime interests or even participate in forums where discussions about your favorite shows take place. You’d be surprised at how many people are out there, waiting to connect with someone who shares their passion. Lastly, don’t underestimate the power of local meet-ups or anime screenings. They can be a treasure trove of new friendships. I still laugh when I think about the time I awkwardly approached a group at a screening, only to discover we had a shared love for the same obscure series. It turned into a delightful evening filled with laughter and camaraderie, and I walked away with new friends. So, to wrap it up, embrace your interests wholeheartedly, and don’t shy away from identifying as an otaku if that feels right for you. Your journey may have its challenges, but it’s also filled with opportunities to connect with others who share your passions. I’d love to hear about your own experiences or any tips you might have for finding your tribe. Let’s chat in the comments!
