Question from a reader:
I am troubled by the frequent visits from members of the Shinjihideyama Association to my home. They have been coming almost every day for about two weeks now, starting with a doorbell ringing early in the morning, which led me to groggily open the door. Since then, I have been made to participate in prayers and have
been asked various personal questions. Although there has been no solicitation, I am visited almost daily, and while I try to pretend I’m not home when I am, they change their visiting times, which makes me anxious. They are polite, but I feel a sense of pressure that is frightening. Since I haven’t been solicited, I don’t know how to refuse them, and I’m at a loss. How can I get them to stop visiting in this situation? Should I consult the police or someone else? I would appreciate any necessary information you could provide.

Concerns About Home Visits: Relationship with the Shinjihideyama Association and Legal Responses

Recently, I received a concern about frequent visits from members of the Shinjihideyama Association to someone’s home. Such situations can be very anxiety-inducing, especially when strangers frequently enter one’s private space, which can be a significant mental burden. As someone who studies psychology, I would like to consider this issue from a psychological perspective. Additionally, let’s think together about how to respond from a legal standpoint.

The Psychological Impact of Home Visits

First, we should consider how much anxiety can arise simply from having visitors. A home is fundamentally a personal space, and the presence of others can sometimes feel like an intrusion. This feeling is especially heightened when the visitor comes across as forceful, naturally increasing feelings of fear. For example, a friend of mine has experienced visits from religious groups several times. Initially, he was curious and listened to them, but they gradually became persistent, leading him to feel mentally cornered. Listening to his story, it’s clear that even if the visitor is polite, the internal desire for them to “leave” can become overwhelming and very distressing.

Legal Analysis of the Situation

So, how should we consider this situation from a legal perspective? In Japan, visiting someone’s home is generally permissible. However, if the visits become persistent to the point of causing discomfort, it may qualify as stalking behavior. According to the Stalker Regulation Law, “stalking” a specific individual is illegal, and one can receive warnings or, in the worst-case scenario, be arrested. Therefore, if a visitor frequently comes against your will, considering legal action is one option.

Specific Response Strategies

Now, how should you respond specifically? First, although the visitor initially approached you politely, it is important to clearly communicate your wishes. Consider the following steps: 1. Clear Expression of Intent It is crucial to directly tell the visitor, “I would like you to stop coming.” It takes courage to say this, but they need to understand your feelings. In some cases, sending a note or an email may also be effective. 2. Keep Records Don’t forget to keep a detailed record of the dates and content of the visits. This will be helpful if you later consult the police or a lawyer. For example, you might note, “Visited on [date] at [time]. Asked for prayers.” 3. Consult the Police If you feel anxious and the visits continue, consulting the police is also an option. The police can understand your situation and provide guidance as needed. Even if you start with a light inquiry, it is wise to keep a record for future reference. 4. Consult a Lawyer If you want legal advice, consulting a lawyer is a good idea. Particularly, a lawyer experienced in stalking cases can provide specific strategies for your situation.

Ways to Protect Your Mental Well-Being

Additionally, to maintain mental stability, it’s essential to find ways to spend your time at home. For instance, playing music while at home can help drown out the sound of visitors. Alternatively, inviting friends over to spend time together can also alleviate psychological burdens. Personally, when I feel stressed, I calm myself by reading. Engaging with psychology books or fiction allows me to immerse myself in another world, so I encourage you to try it.

Ultimately Important Considerations

When faced with such situations, the most important thing is to protect your own mental health and safety. Even if the visitor is polite, if you feel uncomfortable, you should prioritize that feeling. In conclusion, no matter how difficult the situation, valuing your feelings and responding appropriately will surely open up a path forward. I hope you will act with courage to protect your precious space. I wish for your heart to feel a little more at ease.