Question from a Reader:
I’m worried about the changes in my wife’s face. In her 20s and 30s, people said she resembled Megumi Okina and Yuu Kashii, but now that she’s in her 40s, they say she looks like Becky. Should I be happy about this?
Reflections on Changes in My Wife’s Face
Recently, a friend approached me with an interesting
concern. His wife has been troubled by the changes in her facial impression as they age. She used to receive compliments for resembling Megumi Okina and Yuu Kashii, but now people say she resembles Becky. Is this something to be pleased about?
The Significance of Similarities
In reality, the expression of resembling someone is merely an adjective. Maintaining beauty is a wonderful thing, and Becky has a vibrant and cheerful impression. Being lively can be a secret to longevity, and seeing that positive aspect can be one way to look at it. When I shared this with my friend, he seemed to feel a bit more at ease. Interestingly, evaluations of appearance change over time. I myself used to be referred to as a “stylish college student,” but now I’m often described as a “calm and intellectual man.” Whether this is pleasing or not is a bit of a mixed feeling for me. However, I don’t reject who I am now, so I’m okay with it.
Staying True to Oneself
Through my friend’s consultation, I’ve realized the importance of not being swayed by others’ opinions. Being told one resembles someone is not a negative thing at all. In fact, it might be an opportunity to discover one’s own charm. Moreover, resembling someone is proof of one’s own individuality and appeal. I also work part-time at a judicial scrivener’s office, and when my boss told me, “You are a reliable presence,” I felt both happy and a bit embarrassed. People observe us more than we think. Therefore, I want to cherish myself without being influenced by others’ evaluations.
Conclusion
When I consider it this way, I can say that similarities are something to celebrate. Beauty and charm are diverse, and there’s no need to be swayed by others’ opinions. What matters is how much we can love ourselves. I want to maintain an attitude of valuing myself, regardless of appearance or age. How do you accept your own changes? I would love to hear your experiences and thoughts in the comments.
