Question from a reader:
I’ve seen opinions suggesting that the cause of PTSD in relation to Nakai Masahiro isn’t solely his responsibility. Is this really a reasonable perspective? Even upon careful consideration, I find it quite a reckless statement. The diagnosis of PTSD is made by a doctor based on a thorough examination of the patient’s complaints and circumstances. When a
third party who hasn’t seen these details claims, “There might be other reasons,” it seems to be an unfounded assumption. This could lead to doubting the experiences of those who have reported harm. Additionally, even if it is said that “there was no violence” or “there was no coercion from the company,” it raises questions about what that really means. Just because there was no physical violence doesn’t mean sexual violence is absent. In situations where psychological pressure or differences in power exist, the law recognizes that consent cannot be assumed. Moreover, questioning whether someone really has PTSD just because they appear cheerful is dangerous. People often show smiles to protect their hearts. To dismiss that as “fake” silences the voices of victims, doesn’t it? It is truly puzzling that the words of those who have been harmed are always met with skepticism. If you were to receive a similar consultation, would you be able to say, “Is it really that person’s fault?” Do you believe that is the right attitude? Listening calmly to the voices of victims and unilaterally attacking the perpetrator are two separate matters. However, to “ignore the grounds for belief and continue to harbor doubt” is merely another form of victimization, in my opinion. What do you think? Do you also feel that such statements are indeed strange?
How to Listen to the Voices of Victims
Recently, discussions about Nakai Masahiro have been trending on social media, and many different opinions are circulating. Among them, I feel a bit uncomfortable with the opinion that “the cause of PTSD isn’t solely Nakai’s.” While there may be various contributing factors, I believe it’s best to avoid making hasty judgments from the outside.
The Importance of Medical Diagnosis
PTSD is diagnosed by a doctor who thoroughly understands the patient’s situation and emotions. Therefore, when outsiders say, “There might be other reasons,” it feels as though they are saying, “Your pain isn’t real.” Such statements not only silence the voices of victims but can also further harm their already hurt hearts. As a parent, there are times when I struggle to understand why my child is crying. In those moments, I believe it’s essential just to listen to their feelings. The same goes for adults; the fundamental approach should be to genuinely listen to the other person’s voice.
What Lies Behind a Smile
The suspicion that “the victim appears cheerful, so are they really experiencing PTSD?” is extremely dangerous. There are times when I might present a smile to the outside world while feeling turmoil inside. People can show smiles to protect themselves, and beneath that facade can lie immeasurable pain and conflict. When spending time with friends and enjoying lighthearted conversations, there can still be underlying struggles in one’s heart. If we cannot sense those moments, relationships can break down. That’s why I think it’s crucial to adopt an attitude of truly listening to the other person’s voice.
The Risks of Doubt
Doubting the voices of victims can ultimately lead to protecting the perpetrator. Of course, it’s important to think carefully, but doubting without basis is merely another form of harm. When a friend shares something troubling, I hope you would respond with, “What happened?” rather than, “Is that really true?”
Conclusion
Calmly listening to the voices of victims is entirely different from merely attacking the perpetrator. To ignore valid grounds for belief and continue to harbor doubt ultimately harms the victim. I would love to hear your thoughts if you encounter such voices in your daily life. It would make me happy if you could share your experiences and feelings!
