Question from a reader:
Why do Japanese people often show interest in the misfortunes of others?
The Psychology Behind Interest in Others’ Misfortunes
Recently, a friend asked me an intriguing question: “Why do Japanese people often show interest in the misfortunes of others?” Honestly, I was a bit surprised by his words. It is true that in the media and on
social media, information about others’ misfortunes is frequently highlighted. However, I believe this phenomenon is not unique to Japanese people; it can be observed worldwide.
The Influence of Negativity Bias
Psychologically, this is related to a phenomenon known as “negativity bias.” Humans tend to react more strongly to negative events than to positive ones. This inclination stems from our survival instincts, which have been developed over time to help us avoid danger. Thus, showing interest in others’ misfortunes may be a form of defensive instinct. The other day, while working part-time at a judicial scrivener’s office, a colleague and I discussed “things that catch our attention in the news.” Surprisingly, he, usually a cheerful person, mentioned that “the unfortunate events he sees in the news stick in his mind.” I could certainly relate to his words. Observing the misfortunes of others can prompt us to reflect on ourselves, perhaps even enhancing our self-esteem.
Self-Esteem and Social Comparison
In Japanese society, there is a constant tendency to compare oneself with others. Particularly for those with low self-esteem, witnessing the misfortunes of others can provide a sense of relief. I often find moments, while with my university friends, where I think, “At least I’m doing better.” Although this feeling is accompanied by a slight sense of guilt, it may simply be part of human nature. However, the inclination to boost self-esteem through comparisons can sometimes feel mundane. Recently, while chatting with a friend at a café, we pondered, “Why do we compare ourselves so much?” The deliciousness of the sweets we shared became the ultimate comfort. Eating something sweet can lead to those moments when one feels truly satisfied.
In Conclusion
I don’t think having an interest in others’ misfortunes is inherently bad. I hope it leads to empathy and understanding rather than malice or jealousy. Recognizing that everyone has their own circumstances makes me want to be kinder to others. What do you think? If you have any stories or thoughts on the topic of being interested in others’ misfortunes, please feel free to share in the comments. I look forward to chatting with you!
