Question from Readers:
Recently, I saw reports about Masahiro Nakai and heard the opinion that “since the woman sent a ‘thank you’ message later, it must have been consensual.” I feel a sense of discomfort with this way of thinking, but am I the only one? The report from the third-party committee of Fuji TV does not address whether the
word “thank you” was actually said, so I believe it is premature to conclude that as a fact. Moreover, people sometimes show a “submissive or compliant response” when under intense stress or fear, trying to get through without opposing the other party. Expressions such as smiles, kind words, or even saying “thank you” can sometimes be a way to protect oneself. Interpreting that as “consent” may ignore the psychological background of the victim. The Ministry of Health, Labour and Welfare’s notification also states that “even if there was a compliant attitude, that does not negate the existence of harm.” I feel it is important to consider these voices from reality and the standards set by the system. My question is: if the word “thank you” was indeed said, can it really completely negate the possibility of sexual harm? I would love to hear your thoughts.
The Meaning of Sexual Harm and “Thank You”
Recently, while enjoying a comedy movie with a friend, this topic came up unexpectedly. He also said that just saying “thank you” doesn’t mean everything is forgiven, and I felt a sense of empathy. In our daily lives, we often pay attention to small interactions and words, but especially during emotionally charged moments, reactions can be really difficult. For example, when my child was nervous during their first presentation, they were smiling and doing their best, but I suspect their heart was racing. There might have been anxiety behind that smile. And when they said “thank you” afterward, it might have been an attempt to meet my expectations as a parent. This shows that surface-level reactions do not always reflect what is going on inside.
The Complexity of Invisible Psychology
I believe that just because the word “thank you” was said, it does not necessarily mean there was consent. When we consider how much we are considerate of others in our daily communication, especially in situations where we feel tension or fear, there are likely unconscious reactions that come out to avoid confrontation. I myself have had moments of conflict with friends where I said “It’s okay” out of consideration, but behind that was a feeling of “I’m actually concerned, but I want to avoid trouble.” Therefore, I think it is dangerous to interpret others’ words and actions too easily.
Masahiro Nakai’s Response
As my friend mentioned, Nakai’s statement that “all responsibility lies with me” carries weight. I believe what matters most is how he feels, rather than the opinions or rumors circulating around him. The fact that he did not argue likely has its reasons. There are complexities in the adult world and significant influences from the media that we often don’t consider. Particularly, topics related to sexual harm are sensitive and complicated. That’s why it may be important for all of us to think together and raise our voices.
Share Your Thoughts!
How do you feel about these kinds of topics? If you’ve had a similar experience where you felt discomfort with the word “thank you,” please share in the comments. There is still so much we don’t know around us, so I would be happy if we could think about these things together.
